Controlling Guy Problem

Dear Coach,

I have this friend who has a crush on me. He has had a crush on me for about 8 years now and is very open about it. He is a very nice, sweet guy but, no matter how hard I try, I just don't like him as more than a friend. I still want to be his friend but lately, every time we hang out he tries to act like we are dating (ie: holding my hand, wrapping his arm around my shoulders or hips when walking, kissing me goodbye, etc.). I have told him, very bluntly, many times that I want to just be friends yet he continues these things. Is there a way to get this across to him besides flat out ignoring him?

Sincerely,
Girl with a guy problem


Dear Friend,

This guy makes me nervous for you. He sounds really pushy and controlling. Is he trying to trick you into a relationship with him or just force it on you? The fact that it's been 8 years and he's still after you is a bit concerning. Does he have nothing going on in his life? How has he not met other women he'd be interested in before? Although you want to be nice and be friends with him I'd suggest completely cutting him out of your life. He's not hearing your words so let him see your actions and know that it's not going to happen. As hard as it is to be forceful with people this time it's necessary. Before he becomes too controlling stay away from him and cut off all connection. He's not the right one for you and that's okay. Do this for yourself!

Much love,
Your Coach