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Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Tall Girl, Short Guy

Dear Coach,

I'm a 6 foot tall single woman. Most men that I date tell me that they don't care about my height, even if I am taller than them, but for some reason, I care. I don't want to care, especially if the men are comfortable being shorter than me, but I can't help it. I want to be with someone who is taller and bigger than me, I want to feel protected and small. Am I wrong to feel this way? How do I put more focus on who the man is and less on his size?

-Too Tall to Date

Dear Friend,

Oh darling! Be proud of your height. Not all of us were blessed with much so enjoy it. You are definitely not wrong to feel that way. As women, we want to feel dainty and delicate. We also want to feel like our man can protect us from evildoers. And somehow his ability to protect us comes from his size so he needs to be bigger than us. My husband isn't even as tall as you, but I feel save because he's bigger than me. It's strange how that works, but it's just the way it is.
If you are interested in a shorter man that's fine too. But it does appear you still want to be the lady in the relationship and not feel like a big burly man compared to him. If I'm right just make sure he fulfills your need to feel protected. Be sure he won't jump behind you if an attacker comes. Either look for men who are larger than you physically or men that have a larger personality. Someone who will stand up for you in a fight and won't back down in fear. No matter the size of the right man just be sure you feel safe when he's around. Then it just might be right.

Much Love,
Your Coach

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